Parenting

Parenting

This is such a dangerous area to get a discussion going on as everyone has their own ideas and group that they fit in to, for example there are so many types/styles of parents. I went searching for types of parenting there are many. I have chosen  a link to share with you. The link outlines roughly each parenting style.

Please click here for a list of parenting styles

I know a lot of parents who when asked the question :

What style of parenting do you follow? the reply usually is ________________and that’s the end of it there is no room for change or diversity.

When I began writing my blog ( 6 years ago- but only publishing it now) I wanted to include a piece about me as a mother.What type of mother am I? What parenting style we follow in our house, this would be vital in connecting with “like minded parents”. Well I can tell you here and now- there is no “style”, basically we play it by ear.

While I was reading through the options to trying  and pigeon hole my self and my style of parenting in to 1 area I actually couldn’t. When we transitioned from one child to, two children we had to adapt our parenting style accordingly. Both of us parent differently and believe it or not it really works.

Daddy is: “We are going to Carlow, coats,hats shoes and lets go now”

Mammy is more: Now lads we are going to get in the car and put on our seat belts and then, we need to got to the petrol station to get diesel. Mammy will just run in and pay for the diesel I wont be two mins, Daddy will be in the car with you. Then we have to go over the bridge and up the road to where we visit the cousins, but we aren’t visiting him we are going to Carlow.  Come on now and we get all our bits and pieces before we go.”
(I could go on until we get to Carlow but I’m hoping that I wont bore you to tears with my posts)

So you can see from the dialogue that we are totally different types of people. We generally don’t shout unless its immediate danger or joking. If Daddy shouts its met laughter and merriment, all taken in good fun. Mammy on the other had may leave a shout and its usually met with tears and ” why are you shouting you frightened me” Mammy tends to keep things light hearted to avoid the tears situation.

So I guess this just an overview of how we parent we are “al a carte parents” we just pick the best bits for the situation and use them.

I love to hear what other peoples opinions are, and what dynamics work in your house?

 

I’m Sorry !!!

I’m Sorry !!!

This is an apology to all the people in Slimming World who have been on plan 100% with the the following results :

  • stayed the same
  • up 1/2
  • or down 1/2

My usually cheery response to this is:

“Oh not to worry you will prob see it next week at the scales”  “Don’t give up now and undo all your hard work that’s the worst thing you can do!”

I was completely on plan the past two weeks, food diaries and exercising and what do I have to show for it?

I have lost a 1/2 lb and I’m so disheartened!!! All my hard work for that little reward!!

I am so f**king pi**ed off with Slimming world (like that makes sense) and  all the food I missed out on when I was being good over the 2 weeks, things like takeaways that I made fakeaways for and all the treats I refused and had some speedy fruit and yogurt!

So what does any normal person that’s trying to loose weight do !!!!! Keep trying?? NO!!!!! Eat everything that’s not nailed down in my house. I mean everything even things I don’t really like.

Why would I do that? The reason for this is I am an emotional eater- I eat when I am stressed or upset and I really need to work on this for myself. I feel that I can break the habit as I have done this before when I attended Slimming World- I just need to get it in to my head that this is a new way of eating and its not at diet for a short term result that its a lifestyle change for me. This for me is the head-space I need to be in and it just has to click for me.

In the past when I had a really bad week like this I would allow it to spiral and not attend group for a few weeks and continue to eat out of control until I decided to rejoin and start the journey all over again- but not this time I shall face the scales on Tuesday evening.  Wednesday will bring a new week which I will be prepared for- I will do a meal plan for the week and then it will be back to normal and back on track.

I think I need to remember also that 1/2lb x 52 weeks = 26lbs  that’s 2lbs shy of 2 stone so here’s to all the 1/2lbs Im going to loose in the future.

So stayed tuned and see how I get on. Please feel free to comment with some of your motivation. I’ll need it 🙂

Again I am so sorry for my cheery disposition any time another member looses a little after a lot of effort- its very hard. In saying that lets not give up and keep going and reach our target 1/2lb at a time 🙂

 

 

 

Slimming World Journey part 1 after baby #1

Slimming World Journey part 1 after baby #1

So I’ve rejoined slimming world………this is my 2nd journey let me tell you a little about the first time…

After I had Ella in 2011 I was severely overweight and it was nothing to do with my pregnancy,I was always overweight from an early age it was something that I have struggled with. Always on a diet or a fad, always the fat girl in the group of girls in school. None of the diets or plans worked for me. I was kinda cheating myself saying “ah sure I’m grand”

Then when I saw the 1st family photo……….

SHOCK HORROR F**K!!!!!!

So I joined slimming world !!! It was so easy to loose weight….(really it is you just need to put your mind to it)

3  easy steps

  • Free food
  • Speed food
  • 5-15 syns

It was an easy process for me as I liked all the foods (most of them anyway- struggle with quark) on the plan.

I lost 3 stone and almost reached my target…….

Delighted with life- got pregnant again and kept my weight down during my pregnancy. Our son was born in October and then all hell broke loose slimming world wise.new baby, school runs, lack of sleep and the BIG finale to top it all off Christmas!!!!!!!
” I’ve only had a baby” excuse was bashed around quite a bit 2 1/2 stone in fact.

So I’ve been steadily gaining weight since then- I decided to bite the bullet and rejoin. This is not my 1st rodeo so I know the score!!

I’ve decided to document my weekly journey on my mammy mayhem blog….. hopefully loosing my weight and helping and inspiring others as I do.

 

 

So stay tuned for part 2 after baby #2

About Me

About Me

Hi!

Welcome to my blog 🙂

I’m Donna, I’m 32 (although when asked quite recently I may have said I was 24- I think I’ll stick to 24 in my head). I have a wonderful fiance who I have been with forever and a day 15 years to be exact . We have 2 wonderful children (most of the time they are wonderful), our daughter is 6 and our son is 1 year & 4 months old. As anyone with children will know sometimes it can be “mayhem”.

I have always wanted to write a blog and to document our families highs and lows but was always to concerned about other people’s thoughts-however now I have decided that some people will love it and others not so much and that is OK. During my deciding to write a blog or not-I have read countless blogs and decided that I am happy to give it a go and see what happens.

I hope that people will enjoy reading the antics and getting to know me and my family through my posts. The main things I plan on posting about are:

  • Slimming World Recipies that are Family Friendly and on a Budget.
  • Fun family things to do
  • Arts and Crafts
  • Baking
  • Parenting Topics- as they arise
  • Conversations with myself
  • Parenting with a gentle approach (for the most part)

The topics are not limited to these and may change- much like my life as a Mammy changes. I try so hard to be XYZ and fail sometimes I get it all good but its a juggling act-some balls are in the air more times there lost like my poor mind at times.

Looking forward to getting to know you and getting feedback from you all on the various topics.

Don’t forget to check out my social media (in few weeks when I get the hang of it ) for updates on whats happening in the madhouse. #mammysmayhem